Ultimatums

I hate them. No two ways about it. Not the business kind, "If you don't fix my car, I'm going to sue." Or whatever. But the relationship ending kind. Do this or leave type. That means something has gone seriously wrong. I feel like you should just be able to tell the other person what you need and you should be important enough that they hear you, understand and take action without it getting to the point were you have to threaten the relationship itself for them to either hear you, understand, or take action. I've now given three ultimatums to three different loves in my life. Each time a heart wrenching decision that I don't take lightly because I know what it means.

Ultimatum #1
My first husband and I married right out of college. We had been together for three years. In the two years after we were married he had 4 jobs and was unemployed for 18 months. He was also a momma's boy who didn't know how to cook, clean, do laundry, change a tire or oil on a car. I worked full time and I did everything. So what was he doing - he played computer games and was online a lot. He was also brilliant. He always claimed he would be a millionaire one day, I believed him too. But he needed inspiration and I wasn't it. I told him to go stay with his brother for 6 months and figure his shit out. Not to contact me until the 6 months was over. I cheated on him during those 6 months and he found out. He still wanted to come back but he still wasn't working and I was enjoying my new found freedom. We decided to get divorced. Last I heard he was a millionaire.

Ultimatum #2
My hubby and I have been married for about 5 years at this point, and exploring polyamory for about two years. When we started opening our relationship it was because I wanted to explore my bisexuality and most het-males are pretty excited when their female half's want to bring home another girl. We were even pretty successful finding a unicorn or two. One woman we dated for over six months until her drinking problem became our drinking problem. The problem started because I kept falling for men too and that was outside our rules. I couldn't understand how it was supposed to be fair for him to fall for whoever he wanted since he was straight but I had to limit myself to only women because I was bi. Our relationship seriously flailed for a while and I told him to come with me to counceling or we're never going to figure this out. Hubby is very anti-therapy, so this was no easy step but he went. He also discovered that the therapist I selected was not the Freudian psychiatrist of his childhood and this guy was actually there to help us. Now we have a better understanding of each others needs and desires and communicate better than ever in our relationship and we are stronger than ever.

Ultimatum #3
My Sir moved in with my hubby and I rather quickly. It was a whirlwind romance as some of the best ones are. Also at the time hubby hadn't been working for sometime and while we could pay the bills with my income having the extra money was also nice. Then Sir got hubby a job where he worked and we were living the hog. So why stay in tiny place. We found an awesome house with room for all of us and a dungeon for Sir and I to play in. It was incredible for a few months. But then Sir got fired...was hubby working maybe a little harder, was it a bad situation? Is it awesome that they're still friends and able to move on... hell yeah. But that was in August. Sir wanted to try something new and he gets migraines like I do that can last for days and be debilitating. I've been understanding and I want to help him and support him. I also agreed to do a portion of his chores as service as his submissive. But since he's been out of work I've taken on a larger portion of his chores instead of less. As his submissive this has been an especially difficult situation for me. Once again we can pay the bills but the fun money is mostly gone. The longer this goes on it also adds stress to my hubby and I's relationship. Ive brought this up with Sir a number of times and there's always issues, but that's life, there's always going to be issues. Three days ago, I told him he has 2 months to be contributing to the household again. Talk about topping from the bottom. Not sure how to recover or what will happen in two months.

Craving

Insatiable craving, burning desire, constant hunger, untamed lust.... I cant get it off my mind. It being sex, but not just any sex, dirty hours upon hours of every hole being filled and pounded and stretched until I beg for it to stop and then more. Namesless, NSA cocks using me over and over. I've wanted to be the center in a gangbang for a long time, some of my first masturbation fantasies involved multiple men. I love gangbang porn and erotica with Dp and dv, the rougher the better.

In real life these things are not so simple. I've been thinking of organizing my research and experience into something to help people looking for 3somes, group sex, orgies, or gangbangs.